12 April 2011

This is what all the fuss is about

I am really worked up about this, which is why I'm posting about it. This is my ranting place and just as a warning, I will be covering topics that involve the ridiculousness, idiocy, and ignorance of certain human beings that I have been cursed to have known my whole life. Anyway, my "aunt" (that's what she technically is to me, but I don't consider her family by any means) got a facebook account so she's a real big shot now. She posted a note that was very insulting towards my mother and I. More so towards her, but that makes me angrier. Here it is:

You know its amazing the stuff people will write on here! It also blows me away that someone who spends 90% of their life screwing with someone would write that they are tired of people screwing with them!!!!! Not to mention that someone God himself decided to make infertile because they wern't qualified to be a parent would then decide to BUY a child anyway and think that that makes them qualified to tell someone else how to raise theirs. Small wonder that the kid that was bought decided to go several states away and change religions JUST TO GET AWAY FROM THE CRAZIES!!!!

You know what, I don't care what you believe in religion wise, but this woman can not actually know God very well if she believes anything she just wrote. For one thing, it's plain ridiculous to assume that someone did something so terrible that they would be cursed with infertility as a punishment (seriously, no matter what you believe, IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY). Another thing, even if that were possible, um, my mom? Seriously, the one who couldn't hurt a mouse or hoard or ants? My mother, the ultimate mother (she plays mom to many many people) and does a stinkin good job at it. I am not claiming my mom has been perfect her whole life, but her out of all people couldn't and didn't do something so bad to deserve infertility. And by the way, my mom not qualified to be a parent? Seriously? My mom takes care of children for a living! She is the mecca of information for motherhood! Sure, I'm her only real child, but she mothers everyone! And if my mom was so unqualified to be a mother, why was my aunt willing to act as a surrogate mother for my parents right before I was adopted. Yeah...your story is a little incongruent there.

Ok, another thing, apparently adoption=sale? Seriously? Does she even know the story of my adoption? I'm lucky to actually know the story behind it. My biological parents were unmarried adults, 20 & 22. They conceived a child out of wedlock, a crime in each of their families punishable by disownment (no joke). My biological mom was a chemist in the air force (at least until they moved her for my own safety) and my biological dad worked for my adoptive dad in missile maintenance. This wasn't some sort of shady backdoor deal. It was an act of service for all parties. I've thought about it, and if my biological parents had kept me, I wouldn't know any family. I wouldn't know grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. That would be terrible. It's even more terrible than having family members shun and slander you.

Oh and yes. I did in fact change religions and attend BYUI to get away from my crazy parents who I love (seriously?). You know what? They changed religions too (gasp!). Right after I did. I was baptized September 16, 2007 and they were baptized November 10, 2007. It was the best decision I've ever made and it's brought me closer to my parents. I don't care how much the rest of my family hates the church and tries to slander us. It doesn't make me lose faith in the least. Nice try, but no cigar!

Anyway, I've been really needing to get everything out. This has all been building up and it finally bubbled over in me tonight when I read that note. I guess that's why she friend requested me on facebook. To make sure I saw her petulant little note. A middle aged woman has nothing better to do than slander her niece and sister in law? Seriously, get a life! Anyway, it irks me that she is a child of God and that she acts this way. She is God's child and she goes around trying to tear God's other children down too. I can't wrap my head around it.

In conclusion, this is why I've been going bananas all night. I can't believe so much energy and emotion was wasted on her. She hasn't meant anything to me for a long time, but I guess she still knows where the sore spots are. That facebook note was definitely cowardly and below the belt. I'm not on here to slander her, but simply to vent about what happened. It hurt. I do care about my own feelings, but I care whether the rest of my family is alright first. What's even more sucky about this is that we've really been trying to stay away from all of them more than ever lately because they've been so nasty towards us. It's sad on her part because there was absolutely nothing to provoke this. I guess she's just bitter over something and doesn't have anything else to think about.

Anyway, I'm done for now. Anyone wants to talk to me about it, let me know!

2 comments:

  1. Some people are just ignorant and for what it's worth, I find that purging those people from my life is the best thing I can do, no matter who they are. I have issues with my dad and I've all but cut him completely from my life. We still talk, but it's different now. He's not really my dad. People like this person you're talking about will never change and there's nothing you can do about it. Remember that you have the gospel of Jesus Christ to guide your life and that you are stronger than him/her. You know who will come out on top and it won't be him/her. If you need me to punch someone out for you, I totally will. Just sayin'.

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  2. Your dear sweet mom has such a special place in my heart! I love that wonderful woman! I am sorry for the ignorant and hurtful comments of your aunt. What a blessing that you know the Lord loves you and your family. I understand needing to vent, wow this is so hurtful. I wish you the best with dealing with the anger. Having been there, it's ok if it takes time. Again, Love you and love your mom!
    Ugh! Some people's children! ;)

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